pietistic

I did not call you selfish. There is a difference between selfishness and self-centered. Perhaps you might be both but you were being self-centered to a fault that will not help you get anywhere with Ivar. Have you been horrible as well? Think honestly on that.

[ Despite how harsh his words might seem he's being objective it's simply that from what he's seen Letha is making some key mistakes and no one would get what is best for them that way. ]

Did you expect him to sit and mourn you indefinitely when he had no idea where you went or if you would ever come back? You do realize how unreasonable you are being, correct? It is a difficult situation and I empathize with your plight but behaving as if you are the one that has been wronged does nothing to help you. He's trying to protect Winter. He's not trying to hurt you with it. What he has done, it appears is in reaction to the large mistake that you have made -- that you have admitted wrongdoing in. You are the one discontent and that means the onus is on you to make things right with him not the other way around.

I do want to help you but if you want to make things better with Ivar, this is not the attitude to have.